I thought his name sounded familiar and sure enough there was his book on my bookshelf; partially read.  I had made it through the first four chapters. Since I have a habit of underlining my books (because I think I’ll come back later and type them up) I reviewed what I had underlined.  A few tidbits: “our mothers and father’s shape our brains from the inside out in a dance of interacting instincts.  For human babies, survival doesn’t depend on how fast they can run, whether they can climb a tree, or if they can tell the difference between edible and poisonous mushrooms. Rather, they survive based on the abilities of their caretakers to detect the needs and intentions of those around them.  For humans, other people are our primary environment…” and “our experience of the world is constructed around the notion of the isolated self, and it is from this perspective that Western Science has explored the brain…though we cherish this idea of individuality, we live with the paradox that we constantly regulate each others’ internal biological states… our interdependence is a constant reality of our existence.  As a species, we are just waking up to the complexity of our own brains, to say nothing of how brains are linked together.  We are just beginning to understand that we have evolved as social creatures and that all of our biologies are interwoven.”

This is a profound read.  This supports the power of relationships.  This is something we all need to integrate into our mindbody systems.  When we do we will transform ourselves from a place of Love rather than fear.